5 Things I’ve Learned from Rubbing Two Sticks Together – by Clint

I’ve been working on improving my primitive skills lately.  This is not about practicing and preparing for the zombie apocalypse but allowing myself the opportunity to step back from a fast-paced digital life and reconnect with simpler things.  My latest project I’ve been practicing is making fire by rubbing two sticks together, something I’d been wanting to learn for a while, and something a lot of people also want to learn but think is out of their reach.

Over the course of this past week, struggling to achieve this goal, I was lucky enough to learn some things about the process that could easily relate to many aspects of my life, and other people’s also.

 Here are the top 5 things I’ve learned about rubbing 2 sticks together:

1. Patience is essential

When first learning how to make fire, it’s extremely important to have patience! Since it is such a new, yet simple, skill to learn you need to take the time to prepare your body for it.   Realistically you should give yourself at least 2 weeks of practice to allow for your body to adapt to the physical changes.  I did not do this! I was stubborn, impatient and went hard into it. And, a result I suffered large blisters on my palms and bruised fingers.

No matter what skill or challenge you’re learning it’s vitally important to be patient with the whole process and not rush it. In this modern time with so much available at our finger times as soon as we decide we want them, patience is lacking for a lot of us. Activities like this that build patience are really handy to partake in.

Blister from not taking the time to adapt.  Lucky I heal quickly!

 

 2. Teamwork is great

As much as I love to be competent and skillful enough to achieve tasks by myself, it’s sometimes great to work as a team.  The first time I managed to succeed at the whole process (rubbing sticks together -> ember-> Fire!!)  I didn’t have enough stamina to achieve it by myself.  Lucky enough I had Aimee to work with.  She was there to take the slack and allow me the recovery time that I needed to keep going.

She was proud of her inclusion in the process and the outcome we reached. She may have squealed when we eventually created flames!

Teamwork is something you can easily apply to everyday life.  Remember that it’s ok to ask for help to achieve something.  Working together is often far more efficient and effective than being too stubborn and proud to ask for help. Our ancestors mostly lived in tribes and worked together to carry out all the necessary tasks required to survive.

3. Once you have an ember, you need to nurture it

Generating an ember from the dust made from the friction is the first step and it’s hard work, but the hard work is far from over at this point.  You need to gently nurture it till it catches fire on to fine materials to then become bigger and eventually into flame.  If you don’t nurture it well it will die!  Trust me, I know!

Much like a friendship, a business or yourself, you need to spend time nurturing it; if you don’t give what is needed you will achieve substandard results or no results all.

4. Frustration and joy are not far from each other

While working hard to generate the heat to make an ember it’s so easy to get frustrated and give up.  Many times I’ve felt like giving up because it’s too hard or I was too tired, only to push on and a second later develop an ember, then feeling relieved and happy I didn’t end up quitting.

Much like life, it’s sometimes easier to give up on something that seems hard or impossible, when in reality success is so close.  You just need to push a little further through the discomfort to achieve your goal.  This has been a big realisation for me, and as a result, I’m more determined to work harder and longer in achieving my goals.

5. Simple things can bring immense joy

I never imagined that something as simple as making a fire with two sticks would bring so much joy to my life.  I can’t really explain the feelings I had after successfully making fire for the first time. It was a mix of joy, success, power and pride and a whole lot of other emotions thrown in.

I’m enjoying this new project so much that I’m practicing every chance I get – outside during the day and in the garage at night time… just whenever and wherever I can!

I think often we’re striving to achieve massive feats, but I also think it’s equally important (if not more so) to celebrate and find joy in the simple things as well.  By finding joy in the simplest things you are opening your life up to a whole lot of joy. It’s not something I can properly explain in words, but you’ll know what I mean when you do this yourself.

These are only five of the things I have learned from this process but really there are actually many more things I’ve learned about myself and my world.   If you ever get the chance I highly recommend taking a step back in time and trying your hand at some primitive skills.  You’ll really be amazed at what you’ll experience and learn!

 

Clint

Health + Fitness Coach

Primal Influence

Working with kids to help them reach their full potential

I’m pretty excited to say I have my first Private Kids Coaching 1-on-1 student! Yay! So I thought I’d take this opportunity to explain in a bit more detail what I do. From a distance, it may simply look like two kids just playing (me being the big kid!) but the reality is there is so much more than just play happening. The first contact I have before I start working with a child is with the parents. This initial chat helps me understand who I’ll be working with; such as the child’s personality, health challenges, general likes and dislikes as well as gathering information around why they think their child needs to train with me.  Communication with parents is an extremely important element of the children’s training so we know we are working towards the same goals and are on the same page. We then tee up a 30min intro session where I meet the child, chat with them and introduce them to some games and natural movements. This is a chance for me to get to know them, to make a connection, and to see where they’re at physically and emotionally with movement – I can see what they’re capable of and what needs improving. From the first moment I meet the children, I am mentally taking notes of how they interact, for example, are they shy, excited, tired, uninterested etc? This initial meeting often dictates how I am going to interact from then on. Say they’re really shy, I need to back off a bit to try and build rapport and earn some trust. If on the other hand, they’re excited and friendly, I need to match my intensity with their excitement level.Once I think I’ve established some rapport with them I start to introduce them to my games.  These games are suitable and modified to suit their current needs and ability level.  At this point again my mental notepad is working over time. I’m noticing how they’re responding to the game, if can they do it easily or with difficulty, if they’re getting bored or frustrated, and how they’re moving in general. If I detect some consistent movement struggles, I will give some suggestions on how to move a little better, than allow them to try again.  I find with children, it’s not about movement perfection, but allowing them the space to develop better skills.  One of the goals of the sessions is to get children outside playing and having fun increasing fitness and Once I think I’ve established some rapport with them I start to introduce them to my games.  These games are suitable and modified to suit their current needs and ability level.  At this point again my mental notepad is working over time. I’m noticing how they’re responding to the game, if can they do it easily or with difficulty, if they’re getting bored or frustrated, and how they’re moving in general. If I detect some consistent movement struggles, I’ll give some suggestions on how to move a little better, then allow them to try again.  I find with children, it’s not about movement perfection, but allowing them the space to develop better skills in a less structured and specific manner. One of the main goals with these sessions is to get children outside playing, having fun, increasing fitness and self-confidence. It’s not about gaining really specific skills and techniques. This mental note taking continues through the whole session as I continually change, adapt and modify the games according to the child. Once the session is finished we sit down and have a casual chat. Here I often find out what they liked most, what they didn’t like and why.  This allows me to change things around for next week’s session to help achieve maximum results and create a general program in my head for the amount of time we’ll be working together. From the outside it may look like play, but in reality every game, every movement and every conversation is working towards the bigger picture of helping them achieve their maximum potential. I really enjoy working with kids, and find it both challenging and rewarding working with those experiencing behavioral issues such as ADHD and Autism. I don’t specialise in these areas but I’ve seen positive results and received fantastic feedback from parents when I’ve worked with these children and it’s made me realise how beneficial what I do is for them. I recently introduced Private Kids Coaching to my list of Health + Fitness Coaching services and am so excited to have started working with local kids. I’m looking forward to meeting and working with many more! If you have any questions for me about what I do please contact me via email info@primalinfluence.com or via the website here and I’d be happy to chat to you. Thanks for reading! Clint Natural Fitness + Lifestyle Coaching | Visit our website: Primal Influence | Follow us on socials: Facebook + Instagram
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